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  1. Stay with us and keep calm.
    The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.

  2. Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack.
    You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.

  3. Move us to a quiet place.
    We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.

  4. Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask.
    We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.

  5. Speak to us in short, simple sentences.

  6. Be predictable. Avoid surprises.

  7. Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10.
    As odd as it sounds, it works.

1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.”
We know. We know. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary.

Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going.

Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.”

2. Say, “Calm down.”
This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get out a pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.

Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing.

Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps.

3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.”
Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head.

Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic.

4. Say, “You’re overreacting.”
Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction.

The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting.

Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.


This post is important!

One of my girls at camp had a pain-induced panic attack during lunchtime and if it weren’t for posts like this that I see on Tumblr, I might have done something wrong or not known what to do. But because I’d read posts like these, I was able to keep her calm enough that the camp nurse could get her medication to help her and take over when I had to leave to take care of the rest of my cabin.

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Drawn to Comics: Meet the “Trans Girl Next Door!”

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Have you been searching all over the whole internet looking for a simple comic about a young trans woman going about her daily life? Well, have I got some good news for you! The comic Trans Girl Next Door shows and tells the story of a trans woman early on in her transition, through the journal comics of Kylie. Not only are these comics cute little stories, but at a trans woman…

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Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hiya i love you blog and i have a vagina care question. I'm really concerned about the way my lady parts smell and I was wondering about healthy ways to change it? Or wash it better? I feel like I'm doing something wrong ://
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Hi Anon! We’re glad you like the blog!
To wash your vulva (the outside area around your vagina), it’s healthiest to use water and a little unscented soap if you want (only on the outside). Washing more than once a day is unnecessary and can put you at risk for infections. Wearing cotton underwear and loser clothing allows your vulva to breathe, which can help with odor. It’s also healthiest to avoid douches (which can get rid of the bacteria that help your vagina clean itself) and scented soaps, pads, and tampons (which can cause infections and make your vagina produce more discharge). You may also want to try changing tampons and pads more frequently.
Some people say that changing your diet can alter how vaginas smell, but there doesn’t seem to be any hard scientific evidence out there. Fruits (especially pineapple) and pineapple and cranberry juices supposedly improve smell. Meat, fish, onions, garlic, coffee, and cigarettes are said to make you smell less pleasant.
Sometimes an infection (like an STI or a bacterial or yeast infection) can cause your vagina to have a strong, unpleasant scent. If you don’t have any other symptoms this is likely not the cause, but if you’re worried you can ask a healthcare provider.
In the end, chances are you don’t need to be concerned. Our society makes people with vulvas really self conscious about how they smell. But, as long as you’re washing healthily and don’t have a infection, you probably smell just fine. You’re not missing some vulva-care secret that everyone else has. All vulvas/vaginas are going to have some kind of scent, and that’s healthy! They’re human body parts and they won’t smell like flowers.​
Sarah, Sex Educator


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Do not put the burden of cis ignorance and misunderstanding on their shoulders. Nonbinary kids creating new words and new pronouns are NOT responsible for cis people’s transphobia.

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