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tw: rape aplogogy, victim blaming, slut shaming.
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GROWING UP IS REALIZING:
- YOU DON’T HAVE TO SAY YES!!
- YOU DON’T HAVE TO PRETEND TO LIKE THINGS IF YOU DON’T LIKE THEM!!
- AND YOU CERTAINLY DON’T...
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President Obama and his teen mom.
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May is National Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month, which basically means it’s the...
Dartmouth students have filed a Clery Act complaint against the College with testimonies from over 30 students and alumni. The accounts document alleged Clery violations of sexual assault, LGBT, racial and religious discrimination, hate crimes, bullying and hazing at the College.
So I saw a Planned Parenthood ad about reproductive coercion pop up on my dash, and a lot of the comments underneath it were expressing incredulity or disbelief that something like that really happens or really happens often.
But reproductive coercion is actually really common in abusive…
(via darkthoughtsbrightdays)
By the way, as May — and thus a month some orgs have devoted to teen pregnancy prevention — rolls to and end, we want to make sure you know something about us:
Hopefully, our site content as well as what we share from other via social media makes this obvious, but we’ve got all the respect in the world for young parents, both as an organization and the as individuals who are part of it.
We respect and support ALL the choices people can and do make when pregnant, and that includes the choice to parent. While we don’t think there’s any one right choice, or any choice that’s easier or harder than others for everyone, we know what a tough haul parenting in your teens and early 20s can be — what hard work active parenting is, period!
For those of you hanging in there, who work to do your best for yourself and a kid (or kids), despite so little institutional support and so much stigma?
We salute you.
(Btw, if you’re reblogging this, how about adding some of your own supportive sentiments for young moms or moms-to-be right now? It’s mighty tough to spend a whole month having media lobbed at you designed to make your life seem really scary and to make you look stupid.)
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May is National Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month, which basically means it’s the season for teen mom shaming. And damn if the Candie’s Foundation doesn’t deliver! On May 1 they revealed their new celebrity-endorsed PSAs, which include lots of messages that provide the super useful combo of shame and no actual helpful information whatsoever.Everyone needs to retweet this now:
https://twitter.com/FYTM_tweets/status/335126445233954816
Fantastic response by this tweeter to Candie’s.
A coalition of sexual violence prevention and women’s equality organizations are joining forces to pressure Facebook to take a stand against any messages that “trivialize or glorify” violence against women, which they say the company should recognize as gender-based hate speech.
[TW: EATING DISORDERS] “It Ain’t Skinny They Hate” - a slam poem about thin privilege
(this is my first time so I’m sorry if it’s terrible)
(also I know over-apologizing is somewhat of a turn off)
(but shh I’m Canadian it’s in my nature)
Every now and then I get told to
“Eat a sandwich!”
“Where’s your meat?”
“You’re all skin and bones, put some more on your plate!”
I don’t like it, but
it ain’t skinny they hate
I see the crusty-pixelled saved and resaved facebook jpegs
“Real men like curves, only dogs go for bones!”
and no I don’t wanna see it
especially when I got small tits
and wish
I had an ass that didn’t stab people’s laps
when I sit on them, but
it ain’t skinny they hate
and I know skinny isn’t always strong
skinny isn’t immune to pinching itself
glaring at itself
loathing, over-working, and starving itself
and spewing its breakfast in the washroom at school
but it isn’t because they’re running from skinny
it’s because they’re running from fat
and no they’re not always polite
but they could be on the defense
trying to cope with the privileges fat’s denied, and skinny’s afforded
can you blame them?
if you didn’t understand
why why why why
all your life
the body you were born into isn’t regarded as inherently RIGHT
I get told to eat a sandwich
my baby sister gets to grow up
compared to me, who didn’t diet or exercise
but is told that she HAS to diet and exercise
to look like me
that she wasn’t fine and perfect just the way she was
with chubby arms bared in a sundress
dipping cookies
into a glass of milk
on the front porch
like it’s so fucking taboo to have told her
she doesn’t need to improve
that her body was just as okay as mine
and I don’t know what that’s like
to be policed for my size
to be punished by society, including those who love me
for, of all things, my weight
because
it ain’t skinny they hate
Hey folks:
This is how you ally.
-ArteToLife
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Many people — and probably most — don’t grow up knowing how to arrange for or manage their own healthcare. For some, that’s because our parents, guardians, or other family members did it for us. For others, it’s because we never got regular healthcare so we could learn how it works. Some of us only went to the doctor, clinic, or emergency room when something was very very wrong; some of us had yearly check-ups with the same doctor, in the same place and knew we (or more likely our parents or guardians) could call the doctor’s office any time we were sick.
Whatever your healthcare was like growing up, you may be responsible for it now or very soon. Sexual healthcare is a kind of care that people don’t want parents or guardians involved in, so it may be that seeking out sexual healthcare is where you find you first need to navigate your healthcare on your own.
We know that can be daunting or intimidating. But managing your healthcare mostly just comes down to the following things:
- Doing some research.
- Being and staying organized.
- Communicating clearly and respectfully, asking questions and taking responsibility for gathering and keeping the information you’re given.
- Recognizing that your health matters and is very important, and keeping that strongly in mind, and in practice, in all your interactions with healthcare providers.
Those are the barest of basics. What follows are specifics so that you can hopefully feel more capable and less frazzled as you start managing your own healthcare, or find some helps to troubleshoot care that’s not working out for you in any way. What the healthcare you get, of any kind, is like, and how it’ll go, will depend on your own health, the kind of healthcare you have access to, and your personal preferences about the kind and frequency of healthcare you get. How it all goes will also often have just as much to do with you as it does a provider.
This is the well-being of your own body and mind we’re talking about here: being able to navigate the healthcare system, to whatever extent you choose to do so and are able to do so, is a crucial skill for maintaining or improving that well-being. So, have a read about choosing a doctor, calling to get an appointment, preparing for an appointment and getting the most out of your interactions with healthcare providers and healthcare support staff.
Have a read at Scarleteen here!
You know how it is, right, ladies? You know a guy for a while. You hang out with him. You do fun things with him—play video games, watch movies, go hiking, go to concerts. You invite him to your parties. You listen to his problems. You do all this because you think he wants to be your friend.
But…
“All the women living with HIV in my organization have been subjected to various forms of violence before and after diagnosis, from sexual violence, psychological, economic to institutional violence.”
This was one testimonial from a consultation conducted by the Athena Network and the…
