If you’ve had the experience of being a teenage boy, you know that your body wasn’t particularly shy about revealing its sexual attractions. So, there I was with undeniable evidence I was attracted to men and stuck with the belief I was disgusting and broken. An abomination.
I’m happy to report, like so many members of the LGBT community, I stopped believing I was broken. I’m not sure what mental processes occurred to un-brainwash myself, but they seem to have occurred. There are hints as to what may have happened. Dr. Wim De Neys of Leuven University, Belgium, discovered that part of the frontal lobe activates when we realize stereotypes aren’t true and a separate part of the frontal lobe activates in order to override the stereotype (this second part doesn’t always occur).
So, it might be that the evidence provided by my body was strong enough to finally talk my brain out of its moral disgust. Or maybe it was the years of experience living as a gay man that did the job. I don’t know. I do know it was incredibly painful and difficult and I’m glad it happened.
Read it all here.
(Note from Heather: Phil and I were once apartment-mates. So great to see this from him! Yay, Phil!)