Visibility for LGBTQ youth is...
People can forgive toxic parents, but they should do it at the conclusion—not at the beginning—of their emotional housecleaning. People need to get...”
It’s okay to not like sex.
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Here’s a basic rule: if you’re reading or watching a Shakespeare play, and you’re not imagining the actors standing in front of a mosh pit of jeering Londoners waiting to throw vegetables at the stage, you’re doing it wrong.
Shakespeare might have written the best works in the English language, or given us profound insight into the nature of humanity, or whatever — but his works wouldn’t have survived to our day if he hadn’t been popular when he was alive, and he wouldn’t have been popular when he was alive if he hadn’t been able to please the crowd. And that includes a lot of dirty jokes. A lot.
Sometimes in incredibly inappropriate places. We’re here to rescue a few of those for you, and retroactively embarrass the heck out of your fourteen-year-old self, who had to stand up in English class and read things that, in retrospect, are absolutely filthy.
This isn’t about the stuff that always does crack fourteen-year-olds up in English class, but is totally innocent: the “bring me my long sword, ho!” sort of thing.
But the kids who lose it every time the word “ho” is uttered are closer to the spirit of Shakespeare than the teacher who demands they treat the words like museum pieces.
Sure, it would be awkward for teachers to explain the Elizabethan double entendres to their students — but pretending they don’t exist makes Shakespeare seem unnecessarily stuffy and difficult.
So we’re going to start with the most obvious innuendoes, and move on to some seriously advanced sex punnery that is probably going to blow your mind.
I’ve gotten a lot of questions like:
"My partner makes me miserable and does a lot of things I hate and the relationship makes me unhappy and anxious all the time. Is this abuse?"
It can be hard to say from what I’m given. But the uncomfortable thing about questions like this is that I think they’re asking another question, which is: “Should I leave this person?”
And that should not be the same question. Something should not have to rise to the level of abuse to give you a reason to leave. You don’t have to stay in a relationship that makes you miserable unless (until?) it becomes actually abusive. Wanting to leave is reason enough.
There is power in the realization of “holy shit, this is abuse.” Sometimes that is what someone needs to leave. Sometimes when you can’t trust your own wanting to go, sometimes you do need to hear “yeah, that’s abuse.”
But it’s not true that abuse is the only justification to break up—hell, I don’t think you need any justification to break up. This is a decision you’re making, not a case you have to prove. Your partner doesn’t own you until you can prove that their behavior was so bad that they forfeit you. You own yourself and don’t need to make a case to anyone before deciding what to do with yourself.
"I’m unhappy with this person. Is it abuse?"
I don’t know. But I do know that you’re unhappy, and you deserve to be happy.
We love having polls on our site so you and others can speak for yourselves — rather than the media or older adults doing it in your stead — and see how others feel, too. But our favourite part of the polls were always the comments, where we could all read what you had to say, rather than just seeing what short answer you chose of the options we wrote for you.
So, we’ve swapped out the multiple-choice format and built a graffiti-wall instead, where what you and others have to say gets written right in the middle of our front page, with all the answers in rotation. If you’re a registered user, it goes right up the minute you click save; if you’re not, it’ll go up as we go through our moderation queue.
Then you and anyone else can always read all the answers to a given question on the permanent page for the poll, like this one. The full archive of all our polls, in both the old and new format, lives here.
Enjoy! We really look forward to reading having what you have to say and seeing it front and center, right where we always want youth voices to be.
You can check it out near the bottom right of the front page here: http://www.scarleteen.com/