Visibility for LGBTQ youth is...
People can forgive toxic parents, but they should do it at the conclusion—not at the beginning—of their emotional housecleaning. People need to get...”
It’s okay to not like sex.
It’s okay to be sex repulsed.
It’s okay to not want to try sex at all ever.
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On top of remembering that sexuality is so very diverse, I think it’s also very important all of us remember that sexuality is fluid, especially over a lifetime, and a lifetime is the length of time it truly takes to develop our sexuality. Something I find both hilarious and maddening all at once, for instance, are older people who criticize younger people for having a sexuality that resembles one of younger people rather than older people. It’s kind of like being annoyed with a three-year-old for being short. We all get to have, and need to have, developmental phases in our sexualities, and they get to be different from where other people are at.
Most people will have personal growth and change in their sexuality just like they will in all the other big parts of their lives and who they are. Someone’s journey in that, all of our journeys in that, is going to be as unique as we are. How long any of us stay in things that will be phasal for us, or stepping stones, is going to vary. If ever we have the idea that we’re helping someone to insist they be pushed out of a given place or sexuality “for their own good,” (or ours) we need to take a step back and check ourselves. While any of us can often be helped in our personal growth, real growth, the kind where we are simply becoming more of and the best of our unique selves, just can’t be forced, any more than we can — or should — try and force a plant to grow in conditions or an environment that just don’t really take it, rather than what people want from it, into account.