I had anal sex last month 2 weeks after my period, and I have yet to get my period this month. It was early last month, could it just be late this month? Am I pregnant? Please help: I’m so worried.
Heather Corinna replies:
Hi, Taylor.
Just so that this is clear, for you and plenty of other people who have been in the same spot, here is what anal sex is and is NOT:
Anal sex is not a method of birth control. While vaginal intercourse presents a much higher risk of pregnancy, unprotected anal sex can also present pregnancy risks. During sex, when we’re all aroused, things usually get mightily slippery down there. So, if you’re a receptive partner to anal sex, when your partner ejaculates, that ejaculate will run out of the anus, and sometimes can easily slide down the perineum to the vaginal opening. That can create a pregnancy.
Anal sex is not safer sex. In fact, anal sex is just as risky when it comes to sexually transmitted infections and diseases as vaginal sex, and also presents greater risks of bacterial infections (even among partners who have both had full STI screens with negative results).
Anal sex IS sex. I don’t know if this is the case for you, but a lot of young women come here reporting this is the case for them – that anal sex isn’t “real” sex, or isn’t really sex – or what their male partners have told them, so just in case: anal sex is sex. Just as much as vaginal sex. It carries risks just as high, physically and emotionally, and is “real” sex. So in the case you’re having anal sex to try and preserve virginity or because you’re not feeling ready for “real” sex, please understand that that’s flawed. Anal sex IS “real” sex, and if you don’t feel ready – emotionally, physically, or both of you are not ready to manage it responsibly – for sex, then it’s not smart to be having anal sex.
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while you’re here, we’ll drop something else in though. clitorises DO have bones in most mammals.
Let’s bone up on the baubellum.
Most people are not aware that penises usually have bones. Most mammals have a penis bone, called a baculum. The reason most people don’t know this is because humans are weirdos in the animal kingdom and do NOT have a baculum. Even though most primates have a baculum, humans don’t have one. This has puzzled biologists for years, and tons of theories abound as to why humans lost their dick bones. But we’re a Vagina Museum, we’re not interested in that.
In mammals where the male has a baculum, the female usually has a baubellum, also known as the os clitorides - the clitoris bone. It’s unclear if the baubellum does anything. It might be vestigial, or it might serve some sort of mating function.
Baubellums are highly variable. In some species, the clitoris bone greatly resembles the penis bone, while in others, it’s very different. This diagram shows a comparison of walrus and squirrel baculums and baubellums. The squirrel baubellum and baculum are similar in shape and size, while the walrus ones are not.
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From Lough-Stevens et al (2018) Ecology and Evolution 8(2)
Baubellums also vary a great deal between species and come in a huge variety of shapes and sizes: these 3D models show the clitoris bones of various small primates.
Baubellums also vary a great deal between species and come in a huge variety of shapes and sizes: these 3D models show the clitoris bones of various small primates.
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From Spani et al (2022) Applied Science 12(4)
In animals that don’t usually have a baubellum, such as dogs, ferrets and rats, the animal can develop one if administered testosterone, which suggests that there is some sort of link between clitoris bones and testosterone, but it’s unclear if that’s the reason why they exist.
There’s still a heck of a lot left to learn about the baubellum, as the clitoris bone - and the clitoris as a whole - has been historically neglected by science.
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